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Bullying & Your Children
Late last year I was completely taken by surprise to discover that my eldest daughter (7 years old) was the subject of bullying. My first reaction was disbelief, followed rapidly by outrage and then the protective 'mother bear' instinct kicked in! Every cell in my body wanted to sweep in and take control and 'fix' the situation.
Thankfully, years of Kinesiology training and experience took over and gave me enough time to breathe and realise that what my daughter really needed was not a 'saviour' but the opportunity to learn the skills needed to deal with this situation and others that may come up in the future.
So, over the christmas school holidays, I embarked on a journey of self education. I purchased a number of books on bullying, resiliance and parenting (my husband wanted to know if I was starting a book store!) and set to reading and trying out my new knowledge with both my children.
Imagine my surprise and pleasure as I observed better relations developing between my two daughters, as well as my sadness as more and more stories of being bullied came from my eldest daughter. It seems that the problem had been happening for 12 to 18 months, and I had absolutely no idea.
By the time school started I had a plan! We (my daughter & I) have spoken to her new class room teacher and have come up with strategies to deal with the situation. My daughter now has a confidant (her teacher) at school and is showing signs of improved confidence and signifcantly more interest and pleasure in her school day.
I'm not suggesting that every situation is this easy to resolve, in fact I actually feel really blessed that I learned about the problem at such an early stage that it was relatively easy to influence. I also feel really blessed to have a switched on, open and interested classroom teacher helping the situation along.
Contact us if you would like a list of the books I recommend relating to this issue, and remember that Kinesiology can help both the parents and the child become more resilient and release the emotional pain of dealing with such a problem. My best advice is don't wait for it to get better. Get involved now and do whatever you can to influence the situation without 'taking over' and remember that a lot stress in yourself is a reminder of what you went through yourself as a child. This is exactly the kind of thing you want to resolve with Kinesiology sessions.
In health,
Breanna
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